Remember every relationship, no matter how short or long is an opportunity for growth, for finding out your highest self and acting out of your highest self. Hence do not let material items stand in your way. Remember this difference, because centering on behaviors instead of the core of the person can contribute to constant concern about your compatibility. Loving all things about your better half is just impossible.
Love is creating a better relationship by building a relationship that is based on the simple things in life, like walking and holding hands, going on a picnic (just the two of you), or sharing an ice cream. Love in a better relationship is not about what you show on the outside but what you express in you heart. Love is the action of doing.
Love a fireman love the fire department. Marry a fireman you marry the entire department. Love is the action of doing. Love remains love if it is real. "Rough waters" ultimately prove the point as to what is real, and what is not.